Sexuality is fluid and varies from person to person, thus creating various labels to explain it.But labels are only terms used in society to name characteristics which are necessary to group together.Though it seems to be a trend in modern society to be bisexual in the sense that Tila Tequila is bisexual, two hot girls making out in a bar are often not bisexual — they are often just sexual or want attention from the male species. Some generic definitions of bisexuality include people who love despite gender and people who are capable of feeling romantic, spiritual and/or sexual attraction to both sexes.For those who truly feel their sexual orientation should be labeled “bisexual,” many myths need to be busted.1. Myth: There is no such thing as bisexuality — you can only be straight or gay.Truth: Because of the fluidity of sexuality, many envisage it as a point on a spectrum. On the contrary, there is no such thing as straight or gay. This is not to say all people are bisexual — but both the male and female sexes have characteristics of each other.Straight men can be sensitive just as straight females can be muscular, and gay men can be ultra macho just as lesbians can be completely femme. The label of bisexuality only connotes the individual’s choice to be labeled so.2. Myth: Bisexuality is more accepted by modern society.Truth: Though some girls may believe being “bi” will make them more attractive to the opposite sex, in reality, many bisexuals feel unwelcome in both the heterosexual and homosexual communities.This is because both groups label them similarly with only one difference. As a whole, both groups believe bisexuals are sexually confused or going through a phase. The difference is while some in the straight community believe bisexuals to be undercover gays, some in gay community believe them to be straights who want attention. These beliefs leave bisexuals too gay to be straight and too straight to be gay — and less accepted by both.3. Myth: You can’t be bisexual and monogamous.Truth: This myth is widely persistent in both the gay and straight communities because of the tendency of many bisexuals to date one sex after having dated the other. This can usually be connected to different male and female characteristics the individual finds attractive. A bisexual woman who breaks up with a man because of his insensitivity is likely to date a woman after because of her ability to be sensitive.This tendency does not mean bisexuals can’t be faithful to one person — monogamy is a choice made by the individual.4. Myth: Men can’t be bisexual.Truth: America today expects men to be very macho and “manly,” but this does not mean men can’t be attracted to both sexes. Many dismiss bisexual men as being gay. Consequently, few men label themselves as bisexual. Men who may wish to refer to themselves as bisexual tend to delay opening up because of the social constraints it will create, thus claiming to be straight until it is necessary.There are many other myths prescribed to bisexuality that are only conceived stereotypes of the main-stream culture. But bisexuality is just a label. And labels are arbitrary and change between demographics and cultures relative to perception. There are myths of all different sub-cultures, and many prove incorrect, including those about bisexuality.And no, you can’t watch.Isabel Blum is a 20-year-old communications disorder junior.– – – -Contact Isabel Blum at [email protected]