Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match.Find me a find, catch me a catch.CBS, CBS, make a show on TV.And wed us for all to see.The rearranged lyrics from “Fiddler on the Roof” sound crazy, but this is exactly what CBS plans to do. In their new reality show, tentatively titled “Arranged Marriages,” four love-scorned adults have agreed to let their friends and families choose their future spouses. The series then follows the newly acquainted newlyweds through the destruction or fruition of their marriages.Airing arranged marriages on TV is not a new idea. In 2003, FOX aired the reality show Married by America — which allowed viewers to call in and vote on which contestants should be married. The show failed as miserably as the marriages did. Arranged marriages in general aren’t a new idea either.In fact, it was only in the past century that young people could marry whomever they wanted for whatever reason they pleased. Whether you marry for love, lust, money or power, you still have that choice — your family doesn’t. In Elizabethan England, though, arranged marriages were the norm.Families of similar social status would arrange for their children to marry for the benefit of both families. The royal family and the nobility married off their children for more political power while farmers arranged their children’s marriages in hopes to extend their land.It was normal for babies to be betrothed immediately following birth. It was also not uncommon for a bride and groom to meet on their wedding day. King Henry VIII and Anne of Cleves met for the first time on the wedding alter.This didn’t fly because Henry’s informants failed to mention Anne’s “plain” looks. To say the least, this arrangement didn’t work out. In just a year and a half, he was remarried to 17-year-old Catherine Howard.In many countries, including India and China, arranged marriage is still the custom. There are many arguments for and against — but arranged marriages still hardly seem sacred for most of us.The point is not that arranged marriages can’t be sacred. This won’t happen when television can use marriage to make money. Entertainment doesn’t equate with sanctity, which is a lesson many in this country have failed to recognize. Marriage is not a game to the gay and lesbian couples who aren’t allowed to.Neither is marriage solely about procreation. To say nothing of the need for adoption, the procreation argument also ignores the moral justification for marriage between sterile individuals.This doesn’t concern religious marriage — it’s about legal marriage. There’s a difference.A 1,400-plus rights and benefits difference.The sanctity of marriage should not be considered when discussing the legality of marriage, especially if TV producers can make money off a reality show that mocks the notion of the sanctity of marriage.To those who can’t even marry the ones they love, the idea, “I’m going to marry a complete stranger because I can,” is a straight slap in the face.Sanctity is dead — get used to it.—-Contact Isabel Blum at [email protected]
(Bi)Partisan View: Marriage may be gay, but sanctity is dead
February 17, 2009