College hookups never hurt anyone…right?
I should preface this with a public service announcement. Above all, your safety and comfort should always be maintained if you choose to share yourself with someone. You should never have to compromise your identity and expectations because of someone else. Be sure that your decisions won’t affect your happiness in the grand scheme.
Mainly inspired by recent pop culture influences, new music releases and even rediscovering early 2010s TV shows, we are in a super sex-positive generation.
Yet, I am still unsure how to greet this idea of “hooking up.” On the one hand, I want to enable anyone to make decisions for the plot in their own lives. On the other hand, I think we have managed to weed out the harmful ideologies that can come from sex sprees that don’t need to make a comeback.
Hooking up is a term I believe everyone has their own definition for. While it’s up for interpretation, I invite all those willing and comfortable to take advantage of whichever they choose to indulge in. Along with other characteristics of life’s joys, I think society has lost the fun, flirty edge we were introduced to thanks to early 2000s rom-coms.
I never could have anticipated the actuality of college. Balancing friendships, relationships and academics can get messy. Be with who you want it to be with, whichever shape or form that may take. Allow yourself to be confident in who you are. Experience young love or lust while you can; there’s nothing negative about healthy sexual expression.
Reality will eventually set in, and you’ll realize that not every experience you have will perfectly resemble the ideas you hoped for in high school. Nonetheless, don’t let fear overcome your desires. Do it now; do it whenever you want. By the time you get to be in your 30s, you’ll have gone through so much trial and error you’ll wish you had experienced that random situationship for a month or two. So, enjoy that freedom we wish to see others have.
Finally, your relationship with sex is honestly no one’s business. When did we decide as a society that it was appropriate to invite ourselves into one another’s bedrooms? I know we have social media to thank for a lot of intrusive assumptions and comments, but we must take back some of our privacy even if we don’t feel like sharing that part of our lives with our closest friends.
As long as you’re not being hurt and you’re not hurting anyone, why not bring back spontaneous hookups in college? Now, more than ever, is the time for hookups.
Blair Bernard is a 21-year-old theater performance major from Lafayette, La.
