Friday night. 11 pm. You inhale deeply as you anxiously glance from one unfamiliar face to the next as you strut into the local party scene. As your hands uneasily move along to check your newly purchased outfit for any unwanted folds or wrinkles, you cannot help but realize you do not recognize a single face in the room.
Looking from left to right you frantically begin to search for someone whom you went to high school with, or share a class with. But it is beginning to become evident that the only companions you have at this gathering are the finely primped pals standing on either side of you.
Does this sound painfully familiar? Anyone who has attempted to expand their horizons and meet new people can attest to the sweat-wrenching setting displayed above. Whether it is your first year in a new atmosphere or your sixth, meeting new people never seems to get easier…especially if you’re single and searching for that special someone.
To begin, you must accept the idea that everyone’s first and lasting impression of you is based upon looks. Vanity is and always will be vogue. But 90 percent of what you look like is not based on natural beauty or being an individual, beauty is all based upon the trends. It has become the competition recently to own the same clothes as your peers. Your originality, however, is based on whether you are the first one of your peers to purchase a new color in the newest edition of the Abercrombie tee. Also it is pertinent to spend at least two hours primping before you leave the house, the final product resembling a tousled, thrown together, hurried appearance.
The complicated part of emitting an aura of “cool” is to submerge your internal nerves of anxiety and tension and to present yourself as completely indifferent to those around you. Acting as if you could care less if those you are meeting existed is a definite way in securing genuine friendships with those around you.
I have although only gained this wisdom and insight by trial and error. When approached by the possibility of a potential new love interest, acting like yourself and being an original and genuine person will only result in a healthy and sincere relationship. Impressing your possible new “crush” with your mind and your amazing supply of self-confidence and self-worth can only bring you true happiness in your relationship. Accepting the knowledge that each and every person in that room is just as nervous and insecure as yourself can only help in boosting your confidence in meeting others. Take my advice ladies and gentlemen, individualism can only result in friendships and relationships that emit a high level of self-respect and sincerity.
As for the trends, whoever said true happiness is not found in the newest edition of Cosmopolitan and Maxium must be one of those confident people who follow their own opinion and stand out in the crowd. Only your example will enable to show them how “cool” people act.