Once upon a time there was a relationship. The two lovers met in Psychology 1001 and fell madly in love. She was a small town beauty and he was a big city prince. It was not long after they fell in love he was sweeping her off her feet as they rode off together on the Campus Transit into the sunset. As time progressed, they found different ways to sneak each other into one another’s dorm rooms past curfew and eventually graduated to apartments the next year. They began to realize that all they left time for in their schedules was to spend “quality time” together as a couple. What they realized was that their relationship had not been built on trust and support but simply as a security net so they would not have to spend their college years alone. The End.
I understand that time together is an essential staple regarding relationships but have you ever stopped to wonder, how much time is too much?
Some may say this line is drawn at the number of nights spent together “shacking it up” at one another’s residences. If spending the night together is what you would consider part of your daily routine and the only variety involved is which bedroom you will sleep in then I can only pity the monotony of your relationship. So consider making “shacking” something special and spontaneous so you can look forward to the excitement each event will bring.
Others may consider drawing the line possibly at the amount of spare time the couple spends with one another. When the two schedule together not to discuss classes or teachers, but to coordinate their times and section numbers so they can have identical academic agendas, I believe it’s safe to assume a security issue among the relationship. I understand if this “scheduling undertaking” is reserved for academic success (such as tutoring and a extra scantron when you forget one). I think one or two classes will boost your G.P.A. enough and instill confidence in your other classes.
Lastly, the line is drawn when you begin to sacrifice your own dreams and aspirations so it will not conflict with the future goals of your mate? Each person has some sort of agenda planned out for their future successes, most of them organized around the lifestyle of a single individual. It amazes me how often these inspiring goals are quickly discontinued or altered to coincide with their new lover’s future plan. Maybe there is no set line as to when a couple begins to sacrifice too much time for one another, but then again maybe time apart as individuals will bring you your “happily ever after”.